Throughout my years of coaching & mentoring, I have encountered many a disgruntled employee who has become entangled and embroiled in issues that are completely out of their control at work. When we dissect these issues, lay them out on the table and see them for what they really are, they often dissolve or their impact is significantly diminished.
So, what is this phenomenon all about? Let's delve into the power of focusing on what you can control, influencing what you can influence, and avoiding the pitfalls of gossip and negative talk in your workplace.
Understanding Control and Influence
Control What You Can Control
One of the most empowering lessons in the workplace is learning to control what you can control. This means taking charge of your actions, responses, and attitudes. By focusing on aspects of your work that you can directly impact, you can achieve a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. Another term for this is, staying in your own lane. For example, you can control:
Your Work Ethic: How diligently and efficiently you complete your tasks.
Your Attitude: Approaching challenges with a positive and proactive mindset.
Your Professional Development: Seeking opportunities to learn and grow in your role.
Influence What You Can Influence
Beyond direct control, there are areas where you can exert influence. These are situations where your actions or words can significanlty affect outcomes, even if you don't have total control when you go about it in a professional manner. For instance:
Team Dynamics: By fostering a collaborative and supportive team environment, you can influence team morale and productivity.
Communication: Clear and constructive communication can influence how your ideas are received and implemented.
Company Culture: Contributing positively to the workplace culture can gradually influence overall organisational behaviour.
Reporting Inappropriate Behaviours: When all other actions have been explored without change, you can influence change by reporting the behaviour in a professional capacity and in line with company policy.
The Dangers of Gossip and Negative Talk
Gossip
Engaging in gossip might seem harmless or even entertaining at times, but it can have serious repercussions. Gossip can:
Create a Toxic Environment: It fosters distrust and animosity among colleagues.
Damage Reputations: Spreading unverified or harmful information can ruin professional relationships and careers.
Distract from Work: Time spent gossiping is time not spent on productive activities.
Negative Talk
Constantly engaging in negative talk or complaints can:
Lower Morale: It drags down not just your mood, but also the mood of those around you.
Hinder Problem-Solving: Focus on problems rather than solutions.
Affect Mental Health: Persistent negativity can increase stress and anxiety.
Taking Professional and Mature Actions
Instead of getting caught up in gossip and negativity, taking professional and mature actions can have profound benefits for your career and mental well-being. Here are some steps to consider:
Focus on Solutions
When faced with a problem, shift your focus from complaining to finding solutions. This proactive approach not only resolves issues faster but also demonstrates your problem-solving skills to your superiors.
Practise Positive Communication
Encourage open and positive communication. When discussing issues, frame your concerns constructively and offer potential solutions. This not only helps in resolving conflicts but also builds a reputation as a constructive team member.
Set Boundaries
Set clear boundaries to avoid being drawn into gossip or negative discussions. Politely excuse yourself from conversations that don't contribute to your professional growth or well-being.
Seek Professional Help
If workplace stress is affecting your mental health, consider seeking professional help. Speaking to a career coach or counsellor can provide you with strategies to manage stress and improve your work-life balance.
Conclusion
By focusing on what you can control, influencing what you can influence, and steering clear of gossip and negativity, you can create a more positive and productive work environment. These actions not only enhance your professional reputation but also significantly boost your mental health. Remember, the power to improve your work experience lies largely within your own hands. Take charge, stay positive, and watch your career and well-being flourish.
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